GOAL SETTING
A perspective of goal setting was written by one of my past participants — Varsha Manish. Although its dates to 2014, the process Varsha shares, of aligning goals with one’s character in this blog is still applicable today. She had used the same process in achieving a host of goals in all sectors of her life. Today, Varsha is married and expecting her first baby, she has a very successful, harmonious life.
Love to share Varsha’s perspective on Goal setting.
It is that time of the year. Some are wondering how 2013 passed by very quickly. Some are reflecting on how effectively they spent the last year. How much have they grown or how much are they lagging behind their expectations? Some are busy jotting down their goals for 2014. Some are unaffected. Years come and go; they choose to go with the flow.
Anyway, if you have planned goals for this year, I have something important to share with you. Even if you do not have specific goals for the course of this year, we all want something at every point in life. Most of us are wired that way.
Do you give enough thought to what you truly want to do? Or are you just playing around?
For example, there are people wanting to learn guitar because they think it is cool to play the guitar. There are people wanting to hit the gym because their neighbours seem divinely motivated to work out. There are people who travel so that they brag about their experiences to others. Is this your definition of setting goals? Or are you being fair to yourself and to life and are accountable for it?
A person’s goals reveal a lot about his character, his deepest desires, his longings and what he feels to be his purpose in life. Let us peek into the process of goal setting.
- You get into deep introspection.
- You set a goal.
- You reach out for the required resources.
- You get into the process of achieving it.
- You are brave enough to ask for the required help.
- You reach it.
- You are not the same person that you were at step one.
Now, it is not the fulfilment of the goal that brings joy. Real joy is when you look back and see how much you have grown internally in the process.
How much it has altered and moulded your personality. How far have you reached in becoming what you want to be? What kind of person were you when you began and what are you at the end.
Fulfilment of the goal gets you high temporarily, but it is this realization that brings you joy that doesn’t fade away with time, it becomes a part of you and becomes one of the many things that define you. So goals are very personal for they have the capability to strike chords in your deep inside.
What happens when you do not resonate with your goal? You might give up on the smallest of obstacles. You might not feel empowered enough to reach the destination. Your focus might shift and you might not want to achieve it any longer. You might hate yourself for fooling around. Waste of time and effort, isn’t it?
David Nair taught me how to set the right goals. I ask myself questions like why am I doing this? Where did I get this desire from? What does this mean to me deeply? How is this related to the entity that I am on the inside? Will it bring out my capabilities and let go of my limitations? Will this help me evolve to become that person I want to be? Ask questions that mean to you personally. Reflect on what, why, when of it, the universe will take care of the how. And you would be amazed to see how you just flow through the entire process crossing the obstacles, overcoming the limitations, effortlessly.
Thank You David for the continuous support and for exposing me to look at Life from a different perspective. God Bless
Varsha Manish
December 2013
