‘Get out of there’ — A Preventive Self Talk for the Genesis of a Downward Spiral

4 min readNov 25, 2021

How often do we belittle ourselves? Talk ourselves down, let others berate us in one form or another.

I am not good? I am not beautiful? I am not smart? I do not know. I am black? I am white? I am olive? I am cappuccino?

Whatever the Derogation, STOP, STOP, STOP… that immediately.

You can never express yourself #creatively and achieve the #aspirations you want out of life by talking, thinking, and putting yourself down constantly. By you saying, “I am not creative,” not this or not that or whatever, then you have unknowingly affirmed that will be true for you for as long as you continue to do and use this form of habitual thinking. This thought, repeating itself and the #belief it creates is the #genesis of a downward spiral.

What I have learnt in my 3 decades of work in this arena — THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE.

There is innate creativity flowing through you, and if you let it out, you will be surprised and delighted at what the outcome would be. Many do not understand this — each of us is tapped into the creative flow of energy in the #Universe — #THEFLOW.

At this stage only a handful have been able to unshield themselves for that backpack that they are carrying to express themselves more creatively from the stance of #possibilitythinking rather than #probabilitythinking. A total switch in the form of conditioning the brain, to follow that FLOW. This needs repeated practices for this skill to be mastered, and you then are in the driver’s seat of controlling your Brain

We start a new chapter in our life every day. Compilation of our daily chapters creates the #tapestry of our #Life. Our unique talents and abilities are reflected in our outcomes. It is unfortunate, many of us had well-meaning adults in our life that stifle or in some cases beat that creativity out of us when we were children.

I had a teacher who once told me I would not amount to anything in life and that I will not be able to address any group of people, as I was so #timid, #shy, and #lackedconfidence. Little did she know, in the early two thousand, I had the honour and privilege of addressing 45000 people in an open-air stadium, in North India. ‘Sock it up Teacher’ is what went through my mind and as one of my mentors added fuel with the comment ‘revenge is sweet,’ it is like pure honey oozing out of a working bee.

Many are fearful of the unknown — we were taught the “3 R’s” reading, writing and arithmetic, but not taught how to take a leap in faith, into the unknown to venture for where the reassures of life are hidden.

When you understand the Laws of the universe, how it operates and works in line with its energy you will be surprised by what can be manifested. It is an art to learn to align oneself with THE FLOW

Coupled with #faith when a purpose or path is laid before you, you have the choice to just trust and let it flow or remain stuck in fear. Trusting that power within you is the key. In the first instance, yes, it is traumatic and frightening. Repeating this a number of times would break that barrier of fear and slowly but surely will allow for proficiency to take over and thereafter it becomes second nature. We swing into autopilot mode and wonder why it took us that long to deep dive and master this skill.